Mama Mia, She's Barking Up A Storm!

Hello Everyone!
Ok, I'm going to admit it here and now, this little dog named Mia is absolutely the cutest! She reminds me of my Gidget. Just look at this face! Below is an email I received from her "mom" and I have some tips that may prove helpful to this issue:
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Good morning!
I just came across your site and I was so happy. I was wondering if you could tell me why my Mia barks so much. There won't be anything around and she barks. Every little noise... even if she sees the leaves falling she barks. Also, my doll, fell on her once when she was sniffing at her and ever since she comes into the room where the doll is and barks at it. I even changed the dolls clothes and she still barked at it.

Otherwise she is a very happy little girl who loves her toys and is very crazy about her Dad. Thanks for your time and your gift. Sherry
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MAMA MIA!

There are multiple reasons why a dog barks: attention, boredom, frustration, hunger, happiness, breed genetics or simply we have allowed it to happen and not put a stop to it. There are a couple of methods dealing with positive re-enforcement to modify and change your dogs behavior. But,no matter what you do, you and your entire family must be consistent with these methods or all your work is for naught.

1. Pick a code word to use to change the behavior. Victoria Stilwell of 'It's Me Or The Dog' uses 'Stop'. Find a food based treat that your dog loves. Three times a day do the following exercise, you may want to keep a plastic bag filled with treats or belted treat/training bag (available at pet stores) with you:

Bring the dog next to you. Say the word you choose and give the dog a small treat. Do this 5 or 6 times. Make sure your dog equates the word with the treat. After a couple of days, when your dog barks, say the word, when he stops barking, give him a treat. Do this every time he barks around you. You are teaching your dog that when you say the word and he changes his behavior by not barking, he gets his favorite treat. As he gets better and better with this, introduce new triggers, like a doorbell ringing, someone walking by the house, a friend coming into the house. Keep the treats with you to help with your code word and expected non-barking response. Eventually, you can start to take the treats away and replace it with another positive response on your part like a belly rub, scratch behind the ears, etc.

2. Never respond to the barking. If your dog barks and you respond by yelling, he is getting your attention. Try standing quietly if he barks. Be calm and patient. When your dog stops barking, reward him with a treat, a 'Good Dog!' or give the dog her favorite toy. Pick a toy that is only used for this exercise. When he/she has received it as his treat, played with it for a bit and moved onto something else take the toy away.

The key to either method is consistency from the entire family. You must all do it. Once your family and your dog are all on the same wavelength, quiet will reign supreme.

Good luck and God bless!

A Word on DeClawing

I have attached pictures of my best friend and companion, Kona Blue. He is 12 ½ yrs. young. My late husband insisted on getting him declawed (front paws), which I was not certain should be done. I now have a biter. He has gotten better because he knows I don’t like biting. He has bitten visitors, and me. People want to pet him, but he does not always want to be touched. He hates his tail or feet touched. He can be loving, and has learned to endure all my kisses and hugs. I have deck trained him so that he can enjoy some outdoor time, yet stay contained on my decks. I’m very proactive with his health care – except his weight. He loves to eat and I indulge him more than I should. Can you tell if he is happy, bored, has any health issues that I might have missed, would welcome another cat (when he was two, he made it very clear to a pet psychic who came to our home, that there was no room for another animal).

Darlene N
San Diego, CA
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Kona Blue is beautiful, but may also be in intense pain. The procedure of de-clawing is very painful surgery and can lead to the animal to experience lifelong pain. So, from a physical standpoint, you need to take that into consideration with your approach. It is also important to note that once a cat is de-clawed they have no real defense mechanism. It is very likely that Kona Blue is not able to tell you “no, please stop,” especially if his paws are still painful.

Just like a human, animals have different sensitivity to touch. The tail holds a cluster of nerves and as Kona Blue moves through the day, he uses his tail to communicate. That will make him ore sensitive to touch.

I know you love your pet, so “indulging” is never a good idea because it robs your pet of a quality life. I say quality, not quantity. We are not talking about years on earth, but the quality of those years. So many pets suffer physical ailments because of indulgence. It is something to think about.

I would suggest you feed him vegetables like lightly steamed broccoli, carrots, cauliflower, or zucchini. He may also enjoy some fresh fruits such as apples, pears, and watermelon. Always start with a very tiny portion to see how he will react to the new foods.

**IMPORTANT NOTE: Never feed you cat (or dog) onions of any type, tomatoes, raw potato, chocolate, grapes or raisins. Always consult with your vet before changing their diet.

Jack of Hearts

I was wondering if you would be able to provide some insight into our dog, Jack. Jack is about a year and a half old, and our vet thinks he is a husky, sheppard, and a bit of a terrier mix. My husband and I adopted him in July of 08 at 3 months old from petfinder.com. We drove over an hour to the town to pick him up, and it wasn’t until we were driving home that we realized something was wrong with him. He was extremely lethargic, and covered with fleas and ticks. After getting rid of the ticks and fleas, we took him into the vet two days later, and he was diagnosed with distemper and bronchitis, and had ring worms, hookworms, roundworms, ear mites, and three impacted teeth that needed to be removed. The vet gave him only a 30 percent chance to pull through even with medication, but he thankfully pulled through.

We absolutely love Jack and he’s a relatively happy dog, but it almost feels like there’s a disconnect between us. Jack is afraid of being held or confined, and runs if someone tries to hug or cuddle him. He is so friendly though and will go up to a complete stranger and make friends with them and loves to be petted, but not cuddled, which isn’t bad, but I feel sorry for him because I don’t want him to be afraid of something like a hug. I guess what I’m asking is if you can tell what Jack thinks of my husband and I from his picture. Because sometimes it feels like he likes us, but doesn’t love us. Regardless, we love him no matter what :) - Lauren, Internet
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JACK OF HEARTS
We are talking about energy here, and animals sense energy in as many intense ways as we do. Stepping back, his first experiences with you were at a time he was in an unhealthy state. You did what you could to comfort him when he was so ill, including cuddling and hugging him.

He may never have been shown much attention or cuddling when he was a puppy, so he may not understand that. He was brought to the vet within 2 days, where he was was held by the vet techs, their arms were over and around over his body as they needed to get blood, give shots, and medication, etc. As he was held by technicians in a 'cuddle' he may not associate that experience as a pleasant memory. So, you will have to make the cuddle pleasant. Start moving your fingers on him very slowly, talking softly and telling him you love him while you pet him. Move your hands ever so slightly over the spine towards the other side of the body, if you need to,move inch by inch. Every time he allows you to pet him more, give him a treat, or a favorite toy or a play session for further loving enforcement. Let him learn to enjoy and accept the feeling. After a time, he may move to trust you and may be more open to being cuddled.

Keep in mind that if he was confined in a crate/cage as a puppy prior to you getting him, he may very well not be comfortable in that type of environment. Some pets simply hate to be confined, no matter how comfortable. If this is the case, you may have to accept that.

I wish you luck!

FINNEGAN MUST BEGIN AGAIN

These are my best friends Finnegan (black & white) and Stella (gray & white). Both were rescued from shelters at around 5 months of age so I know very little about their backgrounds before they came to me. I was wondering if you could tell Finnegan that he should never run away from me or the house when off leash because it is dangerous?

Stella always seems very nervous and sometimes tinkles in the house. I would like to know if there is something I could do to make her feel more secure & happy? And you probably get this all the time but....do they know how very much I LOVE them?
Best Wishes, Lianna S.
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Dear Lianna,

I’m getting a very strong feeling that when Finnegan runs when he is off leash, he may think you are playing a game. Try not letting him off leash unless he is in an enclosed area and/or use a long line leash (some are 15-20 feet in length). It would be a great idea contact a trainer in your area and work together so Finnegan understands and learns the command 'come' as a game, but with a reward.

Stella and her excitable urination is something that can happen for a number of reasons. I’d strongly suggest that you first find out if there is a physical problem by taking Stella to the vet. Once it has been determined that she is physically ok, you may need to use lots of positive reinforcement. Try to remain calm around her, especially when greeting her, and always reward her when she responds without urinating. When greeting her, keep it low key, or take the greeting outside. A fun thing to do with her to build up her confidence is agility training or fly ball classes, and that can be as much fun for the family as it is for Stella!

Finally, please know that they both love you very much and they are fully aware that you love them! Good luck!

The Elegance of Eli Goes Back A'ways!

Gidget and I would like to introduce you to Eli, the Chihuahua, and our Celebrity Pet of The Month. I met Eli and his lovely owner, Karen Biehl when we were on location for a segment of Michael Somerville’s FLN show, Wingman. Eli, who also happens to be a rescue, won the Milk Bone Small Dog Biscuit Contest in 2007. If you are a small dog owner, chances are good that you ran into Eli’s sweet little face on the cover of the box!

Eli & Karen travel to schools, hospitals, charities, and attend just about every red carpet dog event, in their plight to bring cheer and love to the world. This good-will does not surprise me, as I sense a past life connection that was quite similar to what they do now. However, back then, they traveled by horse and buggy in all kinds of weather, stopping at neighboring villages and spreading positive energy.

The energy I pick up on is of the year 1825-1845, and a very different Manhattan. Eli and Karen lived above a lovely bistro on the second floor of a brownstone. In this past life, Karen’s family were of great financial worth and owned the building, as well as the bistro. Eli, wearing a tie not unlike the one he is sporting in this photo, was the bistro greeter. He was often found sitting in a chair at a checkered-clothed table that was strategically placed just inside the front door.

They shared a love of pastry, and also a particularly special connection to music. It was not unusual for Karen to tuck Eli inside her cape and sneak him into the opera house so he could enjoy the music, too. The bond these two shared, and continue to share, transcends time and delves into a very special karma.

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To see the Wingman episode 102 featuring me reading Eli & Karen, click here: http://www.fineliving.com/fine/pac_ctnt_988/text/0,,FINE_26036_85024,00.html


To get to know Eli and Karen click here: http://www.mschiefmakerhaven.com/EliHomePage.html

This adorable photo was taken by: Petographs by Ixiana Hernandez http://petographs.com/

Saving Grace

I am often asked how my friends interact with me as a psychic medium, and how they might apply my suggestions and advice as a part of that friendship. My answer is that giving a friend counsel is not as easy as giving that same counsel to someone who books an appointment with me as a client. However, I forge on and always hope that I won’t be met with a challenge. Some friends just happen to be more receptive to me, and have found themselves in a more positive place as a result. My friend, Todd, falls into that category.

For almost a decade now he has sought my counsel for validation, and I have seen him thrive in all manner of his life as he applied my teachings of metaphysics to it. So, it came as no surprise that he would want my insight in his search for a new dog. Todd loves beagles and his two sweet little girls (Booboo and Lizzie) passed within a short time of each other, after having led very long, loving lives. Todd gave himself some time to mourn and eventually contacted me on his thoughts to rescue another beagle.

Anyone who has ever wanted a pet knows what it is like to take on that search. My friend took his time, meditated on it and began to do research. Over the course of a few months, he had a few readings and sent photos of pets he might be considering. His heart was saying yes, but his gut was say no. I validated that for him, and his search became more focused.

Then one rainy day he drove to SOS Beagles and found his perfect psychic companion. However...there were some very interesting SIGNS along the way, and I have taken a a screen shot of them so you can enjoy them, too.

1. When Todd fell in love with this pretty little dog, her name was listed as: GIDGET, which is the same name as MY little companion (and why he changed her name to Grace).

2. As we scanned down the page, I found that the woman who owned the rescue is LINDA, which we know is MY name!

3. The whole she-bang was in memory of CLEO, which was the name of my first real pet, a dog we named Cleo after the little beagle of the tv show of the same name.

These are SIGNS. Signs of a state of Grace that is nothing short of amazing!

Cat Fight or Flight?

Recently I helped place this cat in a home.  His name is now Diego and he’s about 8 months old.  He was found in a yard by a neighbor after the owners moved away. He went to one of my co-workers who just moved into a new house. They have a female cat who is about 2 years old. The problem is every time they are introduced there is a raging cat fight – fur flying, chasing, hissing… very aggressive.  He is a sweet and loving cat when he is by himself, but when he is with the other cat he attacks and chases her. It’s to the point that they want to give him to her father, but he has a cat as well.  I’m worried about what if this happens again.

Can you help with what could be causing him to be so aggressive?

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I have to be brutally honest with you. You are not going to be able to change this reality. Diego comes from abuse, and the cats whose homes he is coming into are going to smell that fear and not welcome peaceful energy. It's a fight from the start. Diego needs to be in a family that has no other pet in it. In that way, he does not have to share the limelight with any other animal. This is the best way to help him be happy and shine!

I wish you luck in placing him in a new singular environment.